Valentine’s Day: Success stories

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The Bulletin asked several couples what the secret is to a successful relationship… here are their stories

Sisekelo Mkhonza and Success Mohlaole
Ages: 18 and 17
Dating: 2 years
Motto: Communication establishes trust on all levels.
Sisekelo and Success met in high school when both were pupils at Hoërskool Secunda.
Sisekelo is now an engineering student and Success is in matric.
Both are dedicated to their studies and have big dreams for the future.
Because of their studies, they often go for weeks without seeing each other.
Success admits that this does sometimes place a strain on the relationship.
“You find yourself wondering what he’s doing, who’s he with and where is he, but you find a way to make it work because you love that person.
“This is where communication and trust are vital.”
They said the good thing of dating in high school is that they learn from one another.
“You learn how to treat someone you love. You also have someone who understands exactly what you are going through.”
Success says: “ Love, respect, loyalty and someone who believes in me and motivates me to do my best, is what I want from a relationship.”
Their believe the relationship is working well because of communication, trust on all levels, supporting one another and spending quality time together.
“But most importantly, we never go to bed angry at one another, that’s how we make our relationship work successfully.”

 

Wessel en Rolin Booysen
Gekys: 1 Mei 2014
Verloof: 26 Julie 2014
Getroud: 14 Januarie 2017
Motto: God as aanwyser en Bybel as gids
Wessel en Rolin Booysen (nee Prinsloo) het mekaar in Februarie 2013 op die Tukskampus in Hatfield ontmoet.
“Tydens ons vriendskapfase in 2013 tot 2014 het ek reeds geweet dit is die man met wie ek wil trou, maar Wessel was bietjie hardkoppig en blind en het sy tyd gevat om tot dieselfde slotsom te kom,” vertel Rolin.
Hulle in Mei 2014 amptelik “gekys”.
“God het dadelik vir ons albei gewys dat ons vir mekaar bedoel is en ons het kort daarna verloof geraak, met die voorwaarde dat ek eers my graad voltooi vóór ons afhaak.”
Die paadjie van hul verlowing was baie lekker maar ook nie sonder uitdaging nie en was daar baie uitdagings en aanpassings, veral toe daar met die beplanning van die troudag begin is.
Met goeie ondersteuning van albei se families was die troue se beplanning relatief gemaklik en stresvry.
Volgens Wessel en Rolin kan hul troudag net met een woord beskryf word – “perfek”.
“Geen mens kon dit so haarfyn beplan het nie en ons besef dit is net God se hand wat dit laat gebeur het.”
Die paartjie is nou byna ’n maand getroud en is die opwinding van die groot dag nog vars in ons geheue.
En hulle word elke dag net nog liewer vir mekaar.
“Met God as ons aanwyser en die Bybel as ons gids hoop ons om ’n lang lewe saam te hê en eendag saam op die ouetehuis se stoep te kan sit en terug kyk na ’n lewe vol seëninge en genade.”
En hulle wil natuurlik dan steeds so smoorverlief wees soos die dag van hul troue.

 

Jan en Alwina van Zijl
Ages: 90 years
Married: 68 years
Motto: A house is made of bricks and stones, but a home is made from love alone.
This couple is living proof that true love endures forever.
They were engaged for a year before being married on 4 June 1949 at the age of 23.
Their secret to a happy marriage: Perry Como’s song “Because” played on their wedding day and the words were engraved in their hearts: “Because God made thee mine, I’ll Cherish thee; Through light and darkness through all times to be, and pray his love may make our love divine, Because God made thee mine.”
Alwina says: “We stood together and with each other through thick and thin. We are a lot alike and agreed on important things, such as not to make debt.
“We would rather save up and buy things we wanted or needed cash. One of the hardest things to deal with throughout all the years of marriage, is seeing the person you love struggle with Altzheimer’s disease.
Jan was diagnosed two years ago.
“It is sad that he does not remember making all our beautiful furniture, or that he does not often recognised our kids.
“But I know one thing: he will always remember me.
“Yes”, Jan agrees: “I love her too much to forget her.”

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